20 year archive of first hand accounts of people just like you, who were able to progress from terrified to confident with a consistent effort in manageable steps.
I recently gave a work presentation to a group of 25. And, thanks to you, Charles, I did very well. I received a lot of great compliments. Next week, I am scheduled to present twice to work groups of at least 25. And, in July, I am scheduled to give a formal presentation to a company-wide technical organization. Wish me well. :)
Gail Carbine – 03-02-09
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I ended up making a pitch at the Worship committee meeting that day (9 attendees). The Sunday before I presented 4 resolutions at the congregational meeting (30 to 35 attendees).
M. Richardson 10-30-08
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I successfully conducted an orientation on Monday, February 9. My supervisor told me I was very good. My co-worker was so impressed at how natural and calm I was.
E. Ortiz 02-11-09
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Charles, Just want you to know that my speech went extremely well. I was not nervous at all. Everybody enjoyed the humor and I felt like Jay Leno. I received many compliments, including one who said that it was the best Bar Mitzvah speech she had heard. Getting up and practicing in front of the group was a huge help. Thank you all for your valuable feedback and encouragement. Keep fighting the fight.
Regards, VG 02-10-09
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Just a nod of appreciation for your wisdom, sensitivity and talent. I truly feel I have spent all these years in the wilderness and have finally found a sort of safe haven. I have finally found hope for a better way and it does feel like a huge relief. Thanks so much. By the way, my best friend had his 50th birthday party last Saturday night. I doubted all week that I would be able to toast him - something I have never been able to do - but for some reason I was the first one to pop up and actually said something coherent. My wife was shocked. Hey, something must be working.
Peter Downs – 01-29-09
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Hi Charles, I had to share...last week I got cast in a student film and this week I got cast in an INDIE. I am SO thrilled. and remember guy Simon? well, we still email...he's a producer...and for some reason, he just likes me and told me he would set an appointment up for some auditions with the people he's working with in LA. very kind of him. it's just great to have some momentum! I went on an audition today and wasn't nervous. afterwards, I was, but as long as it isn't DURING, 'is improvement for me! Lord knows I never thought I'd be doing this at all...getting out of my way is...know what I mean? I hope you are well. As always, thank you for everything!!!
love, jenny
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Charles - On Thursday morning I emceed our Freshman assembly with 250 + students and a dozen or more teachers and administrators - although I didn't have to speak very much - I was pretty relaxed and did a good job I think. Thank you for all your help.
Jon Dywer – 01-06-08
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The last time I was attending, it was for an in service last February. It went really well :) maybe 40 people attended, including my boss, and my boss's boss.... thanks,
Kristen Bruan 01-05-09
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Wish me luck today. I am giving my winter kick off seminar for my job that last three days for 5 to 6 hours per day. I have 125 scheduled to come in for training. GULP! ;) Please tell the group that I said hello. =)
J. Wilder 12-27-08
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Hello Charles, This week full of Holiday Parties has reminded me of what a positive effect the class has had on my life this year. Last night we had our company Party with more than 20 very outgoing creative types. My boss gave a little speech and then called on me to get the gift exchanged started. To my surprise and relief it went great! I had a minor increase in heartbeat and then I thought to myself, "what is this...I can do monologues this is no problem"...and it worked!! I explained the rules of the game, held everyone’s attention, didn't feel anxious at all and the gift swap was a huge success. When I was told I did a great job handling this unruly crowd, I told them I would not have been able to do this last year and the difference is because of your class. This new confidence has been noted at all of my Holiday social gatherings. It has felt so nice to just kick back and have fun rather than worry about the social anxiety. When I started the class you told me I would someday feel this way. I am so grateful. Thanks for all of your help!!</ p>
Christina Birchard - 12-26-08
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Charles, I did a presentation today regarding a library visit. I got through it!!! My anticipatory anxiety was really high around 7~8, and I was so worried not only about the presentation, but also my struggle with public speaking in general. Anxiety level went down when I sat in front of the whole class, but it was still there around 3~5, and managed to get through it without showing anxiety. Thank God, and thank YOU!!! for taking me to this level. While I was anxiously waiting for my turn, I thought about all the positive feedback you gave me, and decided not to disappoint myself. I know I have such a long way to go in this battle, but I'm very committed and happy that I have a great teacher like you.
S. Park – 12-23-08
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After completing your course, I had an interview for a job right away. It went better than expected and is a job I probably would have never have applied for without ta king your course. In fact I was as calm as ever and feel confident that I could do well in any interview situation even if this job doesn't work out. As part of my orientation I had to talk about myself for more than a minute or two and there was a moment that I though I might have a panic attack or at least I felt really nervous, but that moment passed and I felt good about what I had to say. I guess I now know more of what to expect in those situations and that I can control my anxiety.
M. Dave- 12-15-08
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Charles, Just wanted to let you know. It couldn't of gone any better than it did on Saturday! I spoke after the maid of honor. She was really nervous, and that kind of relaxed me. I felt like I had to redeem her a bit. I was relaxed, and people were laughing more than I expected. People were coming up to me all night telling me what a good job I did, and that they'd never be able to do it themselves. I really appreciate everything you've done. It was a huge help to practice in front of everyone.
B. Casey 12-07-08
Dear Charles, Thank you very much for the guidance and the reassurance. It helped me formulate my thoughts concisely and gave me the confidence to speak with minimum anxiety. I think the interview went well. Will keep you posted on the outcome. Thanks once again and all the best.
Angelica S. 11-18-08
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Recently, I had to do a lunch and learn presentation at work and thanks to all the prior practice at the workshop it made it a much smoother process, as if I had already done it prior. Thanks for making the workshop available. Thanks and best regards,
Stephen Treacy 11-12-08
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Thank you for the class.
The following is what I learned in the first session:
1. smiling makes a speaker look more confident. 2. speeches are best short and direct to the point. 3. too much hand gesture is distracting. 4. a nice suit can influence positively. 5. intelligent - seemingly wonderful people have the same anxieties as I do! 6. waiting for your turn to do a speech is agonizing! but its comforting to know I’m not the only one who feels that way.
and you Mr. Zenspeak- you're just hilarious! VEry witty - incredible timing. Humor is so important.
Thank you for the experience- I REALLY LIKED IT. :-(
Kathleen Ong - Professional Organizer 08-18-08
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Hi Charles, I really appreciate your continuous care and support, and am happy to tell you that the presentation went extremely well. This, I can say, was unimaginable two months ago. I can finally see the result of attending your classes. It's as though I passed the mid-way point. My next goal is to attend the Toastmaster classes!
S. Kaya
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Charles, I got through the best man speech. It went very well. The place was packed and I probably spoke for 3 or 4 minutes. Oh, and I had to wait until after 11 PM to give it.
Mark Molloy 08-07-07
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My interview and presentation for the teaching program went very well yesterday. I couldn't have done it without your help. You're an amazing guy and a great teacher. If I get accepted and I start doing presentations, you'll be seeing me again in late October. All the best,
Gerald La Starza 07-26-07
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Anyway, I just wanted to give you an update and say thanks. Of all the docs I've seen (and we're talking far more than a bakers dozen) you seem to be the only one who truly knows what he's doing and how to work with people. The rest seem to have acquired all their answers from a textbook.
Ben B. 07-30-07
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The job interview went very well, I was offered a second interview, completed that and was given a job offer on the spot, They were really interested.. I used your feedback in class and it served me well.
Jarrett Kaczmarski 07-09-07
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Some updates... I feel I am at the point where social anxiety is not negatively affecting my life anymore. There is still much that I could improve on, but generally I can deal with it. I rarely doubt myself anymore (even when I am not talking), and honestly, I couldn't have done it without your classes. So just want to say thank you!! I plan to start teaching English sometime in the future, so I will be coming back to public speaking (and maybe acting)... probably in August/September. Cheers,
Han Cheung 06-26-07
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Hi Charles, I just wanted to let you know the presentation went very well and believe it or not I wasn't even that nervous. It really helped to be able to practice it in front of the class and your advice was very helpful too. See you soon and thanks again!
Sharon 06-19-07
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Just wanted to let you know that the presentation went well - better than I expected.! I got feedback that I was the best speaker of the day and they had about 6 others presenters. So thank you for all your help! Looking forward to continuing improving.
N.B. 06-13-07
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The presentation went well. Better than expected. Although nervous in the beginning. I felt good, polled some of the audience for feedback, some unsolicited, gave me positive feedback. My short time with you helped (3 weeks).
Leesa Grant 06-04-07
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Just letting you know that the public speaking workshop has already improved the quality of my life. I am so glad I am participating and have met some wonderful people. Thank you so much.
John Kaiteris: 06-01-07
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I had my actual oral argument today. I got great criticism from the two lawyers judging me. Their only negative critique was using a certain phrase to much, but they said my passion, and understanding were phenomenal. I stated a little nervous, but found my stride pretty quickly. I wanted you to know that I could not believe how anxious everyone besides me was. people were freaking out, and I was totally calm and confident! I was actually thinking about referring some people to our group because they were so scared and anxious. The advantage I have from your teaching, and my participation in the group is amazing!!!!! Me, the one person with social anxiety performs better than a lot of these other people. I think a lot of people suffer from anxiety and they don't know it, or won't acknowledge it. Anyway, it was great. If I scored in the top 32 out of 193 people I get to go again next week against a tougher opponent. I will keep you updated!! You program rocks!
Jared
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Charles - Hi, I wanted you to know that on Monday I volunteered to argue my case before my professor and fellow class mates today in preparation for the actual argument taking place on Saturday. No one else volunteered, they were to afraid. I have been pretty nervous about it. However, I got to class, and I was prepared. I was able to relax thinking about all of the times I have done the same thing with you. Then when I got up I was anxious at a 3 or 4 for about a minute, then I got comfortable, started to enjoy it and was performed with such ease! The whole class was impressed. I can't believe what a difference your course has made in my life. I get anxious about things, but I completely know I can manage the anxiety now. It has been one of the best things I have ever done, and 9 months ago it would have been out of the question to blindly get up in front of a group of people and do what I did today. I just thought you'd like to know that everything is really paying off. I will see tomorrow! P.S. You need to do what you do on a wider scale. Not for the money, but simply because it makes such a difference in people's lives.
Jared <04-18-07
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Hi Charles, It's Sharon, I was a student of yours about 3 years ago (I'm Guyanese - ring a bell?) Thanks for keeping me on your email list - I auditioned for the part of Violet this morning and got it!!!. Thanks again and take care,
Sharon 10-25-06
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My reading (wedding) went very well - thanks for all your help!!!
Best regards, Sarah T. Slocum 05-29-07
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Well my presentation in front of 100 people went off without a hitch and I was totally fine...thanks to all the practice I had!!
Jamie Bradley 05-29-07
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Charles - You were right... it went quite well. I was not to nervous and in control of the situation. I am glad to have practiced over and over in class! Yet, still a lot of progress remains to be done in the future! Thank you so much for all your help and kind support.
Dominique Bernard 05-18-07
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By the way, I gave my presentation at work Friday and it went great. I spoke to a room full of about 25 people and wasn't nervous at all! I couldn't have even imagined doing that a year ago. My boss told me twice that I did a great job. You have worked a miracle -- thanks so much.
D. A.
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Dear Charles - As you know I am going to be participating in an Acting Showcase in a few weeks. I will be performing on stage for the first time in my life, -in front of an audience of about 70 people, on 4 consecutive nights, no less! This is a miracle for me! This is something which only 6 months ago I wouldn't even have dared to dream of. As I said, there's just no way that I could've come this far were it not for you and the class. I remember you once said to me, after I had just been up in front of the class, "If you stay with this and work hard your whole life will change." Well I have news for you, it's already beginning to happen.
John Talerico
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As you know I finished the workbook, and just want to say thanks to you. I know you have been doing it for a long time, but you do a great thing there. I hope you know that. I NEVER would have gotten through it if it were not for the way you teach. I don't know how it's been for everyone else through the years, but for me, the workshop has been something very special. Even these days when I have anxiety about attending, and especially when I DON"T, I never let myself forget the first day and why I came. It keeps me humble, and reminds me to let go a little bit.
Joe LoGuidice 10-12-06
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The task ahead seemed insurmountable. I am a 23 year old graduate student who was to teach English 220 to a group of 30 undergraduate students. This would require intelligence, poise, the ability to speak in public, and a brand-new wardrobe. I was horrified. I enrolled in the workshop, hoping to cure my paralyzing fear of public speaking. As the time drew closer, I enjoyed daily panic attacks and hard-core insomnia. I practiced in four different groups, and though, when I went in for my first class, I was trembling with trepidation, the experience that I had gained from groups sustained me and I survived. I write this now in my brand-new office, a few hours after my third class.
The workshop may not make public speaking easy, but it makes it possible.
Marina Robinovich
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ah Charles, I had to share...such SWEET RELIEF...for the first time, I didn't get nervous AT ALL, anywhere in my body on stage. and, I did three takes in a row and had to be condescending and belligerent. You know how hard anger is for me...and people were like, "wow, don't' let me get in a fight with you!" it was SO FREEING Ican't tell you and so much fun. my partner gave me a high-five after because we just had so much fun with it. and, Iwant to keep it that simple...but, my god, it's so great not to have those symptoms and Ican store it in my memory for when the nerves surface....yippy! so, one step at a time and enjoyment...I am learning... I hope you are well! thank you for your classes and time and friendship. always,
Jenny Defrancisco - 11-11-05
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Hi Charles, Just letting you know that I did my introductory speech in my class yesterday and it went very well. I was nervous before the class started and I had anxiety as I went up to speak but it was completely controllable. I tried to project more as I spoke to release any nervousness, like you suggested on Friday, and it worked. When I speak louder I feel more powerful and the nervousness goes away a little, or at least becomes a lot more manageable. It seems like it's impossible to "panic" if you speak loudly ;) Several students came up to me after class saying they liked my speech. So, I'm glad I went back to your course to practice. It made all the difference. Thanks for 2 good classes and great feedback from you and the Friday evening students. p.s. I'd like to return to "stay in shape." I may not make it this Friday, but I'll email you again to let you know when. Thanks.
Katarina - 10-26-05
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Charles, Hola! I just wanted to email you and let you know that my event Saturday night went really well. I had the expected anticipatory anxiety (the greeting line was pure hell), but resigned myself that it would go well. I started off shaky on the "Thank you's', as my voice quivered and I made one small flub. Then I gathered myself (paused a second) and launched into it, slowed down on my delivery and elaborated on the jokes, and started getting some genuine, loud laughs, and a great round of applause! I hear it came across sincere and funny and I got complements. All in all, I am very happy with it. I can't stress enough how much good the practice did. I know I couldn't have done it without your help, and I wanted to thank you! I very much appreciate your patience. Thanks again,
Eric C. 10-24-05
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I'd like to thank you for all that you have done for me up this point in our class. I never thought I would be able to speak in front of a group again, and with your compassionate guidance, I am gaining confidence in my ability to do just that. It was a wonderful practice for me last night on so many levels. In particular, waiting until the end to take my turn. It's amazing how the things we think are so challenging, are just what the doctor ordered.
Maureen Munroe 10-14-05
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It started like an airplane...shaky at first rumbling down the runway (for about a minute) as I worked to gain composure. During the first minute, I wasn't sure if I would crash or fly until I got just a little air under my tires and lifted of the ground just ever so slightly. Once I realized I was within grasp of control (a few more minutes of talking), the anxiety began to fade as I realized I knew the material well due to practicing. As the anxiety began to lift, I actually took off, soared and enjoyed myself. It was the presentation I always wanted to give!! Thank you Charles!!!!!
Greg Roberts - 10-14-05
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Charles, I am already benefiting from the work that I have put in my public speaking. I am answering and asking questions voluntarily in class. I have a presentation to give next week on a regression analysis of cancer rates which I'm feeling confident about. I look forward to returning to class in the next couple of weeks to improve my public speaking abilities further. Regards,
James McCullagh 10-06-05
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OK Charles. Have to give you the update on my presentation last night. I was a little nervous about this one as the group was certified financial planners, some of whom are also CPA's and attorneys. Had a group of 46 actually show up. Used your advice to sit down, didn't feel I had to use the Q and A format so much as my presentation was broken up by a dinner break. This was a little odd, but I managed. Since we were giving continuing Ed credit we got course evaluations from some. We got 34 back and I got 4 goods, 17 above average and 13 excellent! The feedback last night was great. What a rush! Everyone thought I had an excellent command of the subject matter. Last night was the most comfortable I've been, dry mouth and a bit of nerves lasted only about 5 minutes with no shaky voice. Thanks and I'm looking forward to doing more work with you.
Jaime Raskulinecz 09-23-05
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I have been attending the group for sometime now and I want you to know just how much it has meant to me and the changes it has made in my life. Last week I became a certified Toastmaster. I completed my tenth speech and was awarded a certificate and a pin at the end of my speech. The best part about the night is that I gave the speech anxiety and all. The anxiety no longer controls me and when it appears I don't spend most of my time trying to suppress it. I have learned, with Charles' help, how to function with my anxiety and to live a full and happy life with it. At the Toastmasters meeting on another night, I was to evaluate a gentleman who was once part of Charles' group (purely coincidental). I was struck by how comfortable and really funny this man was as he spoke to the group.. It was then that I thought someone should know about the fruits of all that Charles does. So here I am writing this testimonial because as I sat at the Toastmasters meeting with my old friend from the Public Speaking Center, I can't believe how far we've come, how good we are (anxiety and all), and we have the Center and Charles to thank.
E. Tucci 06-21-05
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Hi Charles - My best man speech on Sunday went over really well. I'll fill you in on all the details at the next session. Thanks for all your help!
Frank Gregory - 06-01-05
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Also just wanted to say thank you. If it weren't for you, and this class, I would have had no chance, my anxiety was that bad. Unlike most people in the class, I have full blown social phobia, but coming here has really helped a lot, and has actually enabled me to have normal conversations with people, most of which I've never met before - something that was damn near impossible before. Thank you,
Alex Malios - 04-05-05
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Gave my second speech at toastmasters tonight, to a crowd of about 30. Not a lot of anticipatory anxiety but fairly nervous, (in and out) during the speech but few people saw my discomfort. Got mostly comments of excellent speech, primarily, I think because the content was original and strong but at the least I survived; no crashing and burning; and I came out pretty good, on the whole. Once again, Charles, my thanks to you and all those fine people who are your students. on a happy note, i did my oral arguments in federal court and not only did i do very well, i actually enjoyed them! thanks for all the help.
Nick Mitchell - 03-31-05
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I have tried very hard to keep coming every week and not miss. The classes have been helping me a lot. And I feel that coming once a week has kept me in front of people on a regular basis, and is beginning to chip away at the problem. In other words - the program is working! I've been reserving making this conclusion, for fear that I might use that as an excuse to stop coming. But I believe that the way to continue to succeed is to continue to attend.
More proof: Last Wed. I had my presentation for the Fire House project. When my Marketing Director sprung that presentation on me on Mon. at first I felt fear (not nearly as much as in the past). But the first thing that I started to figure out was would I be able to attend class prior to the presentation to do a dry run, and practice in front of the group. Once I realized that I would be able to do that, I actually felt some relief! And once I did the presentation in front of the class on Tues. - as rough as it was - I felt much more confident and in control of the situation. Well, the presentation went well. Certainly not flawless, but definitely a success. And because I was better prepared and more confident, I felt that I could actually absorb much of what was happening, rather than only worry about my part.
The class is working! But there is still much work to be done!! Thanks for all your encouragement and help thus far!
Pat Lacorte - 02-05-05
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Charles, I had a good experience today that I wanted to share with you. When I first started your class, one of my goals was to be able to handle "roundtable" type discussions. Lately, I have been getting around them by being the first person to speak - less anticipatory anxiety. Today I had a "roundtable" discussion, where I did not have that luxury. The VP of my department had us go around and I had to give an update on the tasks that I was working on. I went 7th and I was able to manage the anxiety! It was incredible. I didn't know that I could do it. My comfort with projecting my voice and making eye contact really came through. I also found something interesting lately. I always tried to hide any jitters by staying still, before it was my turn to speak. Instead, if I try to "shake off" the anxiety (naturally) by moving my hands or legs or whatever, I dispel some of my nervous energy. It really helps ... and maybe someday I could actually do stand-up comedy? My interview last Monday went well too. Thanks for your help and your class.
David Dutt - 12-02-04
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What can I say? It was far and away the best speech I've ever given. The maid of honor and I went out to the dance floor and she asked if she could go first, so naturally I obliged. I was more excited than nervous while waiting. I noticed that she was reading her speech and didn't have an intro or say 'good evening' to the audience, and I'm thinking, maybe I should give her Charles's phone number. And then I nailed it. There was more laughter than expected. Every single person I spoke to during the course of the wedding said how nicely I spoke and complimented the material. My friends said it didn't seem as if I was trying to be funny which actually made it much more humorous. The most flattering remark I received was that it seemed as if I was talking to everyone in the room on a personal level. It was a great feeling and I'm grateful to you and the class. The practice and the feedback I received enabled me to deliver the speech with total confidence.
Brian Feldman 11-20-04
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Hi Charles, first, I want to tell you that the presentation on Monday went fine! I was so relieved to get through it and I feel like I did a good job. Thank you for all your help and support - and for listening to it so many times!
Caitlin Anderson 11-12-04
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The presentation went really well. I was a wreck, but no one seemed to notice, and the new Director of Development was really happy. Your help made a big difference. I'll give you details when I see you.
Martha Hiatt 11-10-04
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The good news is that I had a presentation last week to my 50-person strategy class and I nailed it. After some initial anxiety (which I was able cope with and get under control), the presentation went great and I didn't run out of air... In any case, I recognize the significant value of your course and I am very appreciative of the progress I have made after attending it a handful of times.
Tom Harris- 11-05-06
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Good news Charles! My presentation went really great today!! I was completely poised and calm. I even wanted to speak beyond the time I was given. I'm still in shock right now but I just wanted to thank you for helping me through this. I couldn't have done it without you and the support of the group. thank you again!
Sarah Lee 10-08-04
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It is now four years since I started to do puppet shows for kid, (which is pre recorded) but every time I do a show I hide my self inside my booth and before I start the show I look up to my puppets as they hanging up there I smile to them and tell them, Hey, you better do a good job, leaving me wondering if it will ever, ever be a time that I will be able to come out of that booth and speak live to the audience. Now since I started to this class things start to improve rapidly as Charles took me up the ladder step by step, and last week I did a show for about 250 kids and for the first time I was able to speak with the audience and got them involved in the show. It was something, after the show I saw all my puppets looking at me, I almost hear them say, hey, you did a good job. Now its my turn to tell Charles, hey, you are doing a good job and I can not thank you enough.
Moses Guttman 08-17-04
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Here's a positive anecdote: started class last week at New School and not only handled dreaded intros with relative aplomb but actually participated during class!
Rene - 7-22-04
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I have to tell you that this course really works and I can't thank you enough. all the best
Moses Guttman - 7-06-04
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I did the joke today and it went well ... I'm glad I practiced it once and got your feedback. Today I just told the story ... there were about 150 people in the room ... Thanks.
Josh - 6-23-04
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Had some experiences outside of class that were positive... introducing myself to about 16 people with not much anticipation about it- also, having to read in a class that I'm taking (we went around in a circle-of course, me being the last- felt anxious when the others we're reading, but when it got to me I just did it, and kind of psyched myself out of it as I got started). Next week comes a short presentation of a project for the class... Thanks Charles.
Kristen Braun - 4-23-04
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Hi Charles, Just writing to let you know how the presentation went. During the presentation I was very nervous but I fought through it and finished the presentation. I forgot to make some points and tripped up the words at one point but I could live with it. Overall it was a coherent and complete presentation. Thanks for your help!
Justin 04-12-05
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Charles: I want to tell you about my presentations in the university: I had three presentations last week, one of them was for 30 minutes! I was too nervous the night before that presentation, but when I was in the class I felt relatively relaxed...and when I started the first presentation I felt great! :) was an excellent presentation, was so smooth (as one of my classmates said) funny that when I presented the materials I did not want to shut up ! after finishing my presentation I went back to my seat whispering to myself " Thank you Charles!" So thank you again for the support and for the smart insights.
Abdullah Al-enezi - 4-03-04
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Hi Charles, Well, the conference call went fine. I was definitely nervous -- my hands were shaking! But I spoke loudly and clearly and I'm sure it wasn't apparent. As the session went along, I was not anxious at all, and was able to ad-lib my way through it. So I thank you very much for all your help! It certainly is a relief to have this over with. You provide a wonderful service for all us shy speakers. Thanks again,
Chris Castanzo - 4-01-04
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I don't want to make any premature judgments but I think the course is doing wonders for me. I feel MUCH more comfortable in meetings and training sessions where speaking in front of the group is required. I just want to keep going on this path because little by little I can feel that things are getting better. I don't know if it's just the talking about and discussing the fear and/or the exercises. I really think it is the combination of both.
Karl Loeffler - 12-15-03
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I've finally received my Peace Corps invitation. Naturally I'm feeling some anxiety - not just about moving to a new country or living in conditions that I'm not used to, but primarily about my work, not knowing what to expect, where I will be working, what exactly I will be doing, who I will be working with or speaking to. But I don't feel overwhelmed by my anxiety, I really feel that I can meet the challenges I'll be presented with. And I owe so much of that to you and your group. I would never have been able to apply for the Peace Corps or be in this position had it not been for you and I hope you understand how grateful I am. Thank you.
Laura - 12-10-03
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I was extremely anxious about facing the upcoming class presentation; I actually considered backing out. All the while I continued coming to the group and thru the support of the group members my confidence rose. The anxiety never ceased although it lessened with time until the night arrived when I had to give the presentation and I conjured up the strength to proceed. I made it thru and afterward a couple of classmates told me I did a good job, when all I wanted to do was just make it thru. Now that this presentation is over it gives me more confidence to deal with several more presentations that will be coming up within the next several weeks. I cannot and will not become complacent. I will continue to attend the group and hopefully, with time, will be able to look back at these days and laugh, while never sitting back on my laurels.
J.A. Jovine - 11-27-03
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As you know, I've been nervous for quite some time about the "best man" speech. On preceding days, I did feel pressure building a bit, but the anxiety was manageable. Throughout the day of the ceremony, I had to keep reassuring myself that I could give the toast, even though I was very nervous about it. Well, I did do it - if front of 160 people. It was such a good feeling to be told by dozens of guests how great the toast was. After attending at least 20 weddings in the past five years, this turned out to be one of the best.
Joel S. - 9-08-03
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Charles: Just wanted to take a moment to thank you and update you on my progress. As I type this I am in the middle of a grueling orientation. As a part of it, I was required to take a two day communications and public speaking workshop. Needless to say, I was very nervous about this. When I got to class I found out that each of us (40 students in the class) would be making three presentations over the next two days. I was very nervous, particularly before my first presentation, as I think that this is the largest group that I've ever spoken in front of. I got through it and couldn't believe the feedback I got from both the professors and my fellow classmates. People told me that I was great and didn't seem nervous at all. One of the professors even told me that I was a natural. This was a huge step for me. As nervous as I was about making these presentations, I couldn't imagine how I'd feel if I hadn't attended your program beforehand. I now plan to join a toastmasters club down here, and really believe that one day I will become the confident public speaker that I never dreamed I could be.
Jason Sheer - 8-20-03
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Hi Charles, I just wanted to fill you on the presentation I gave yesterday. It was a three hour presentation attended by 15 high-level technical and management executives (including my boss, and his boss), and I was the only presenter. In the past, it would have been unfathomable for me to even consider giving a speech of this magnitude, and without question I would have found a graceful way to avoid it. I couldn't have imagined speaking for 3 minutes, let alone 3 hours, to this type of group. I just want take this opportunity to thank you, Charles, as well as the other participants in the program who have helped me to achieve what at one time I thought to be unachievable. I know that the war is not yet over, but a big battle was won yesterday, and I look forward to continued progress in the future. Thanks again,
Dave Bantel - 6-20-03
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I gave my presentation today to a group of about 30 people. I was pretty nervous ahead of time, but got through it nicely. I felt my voice being a little shaky in the beginning but as I kept going, I eased nicely into the presentation - and it even ended up being fun! I received serveral compliments as people exited the room. Thanks for all your help,
Debbie Jesse - 6-18-03
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Charles, Just to let you know, today's presentation went extremely well, perhaps even better than during the last few trial runs. I really nailed it and I was even able to pause after some bullet points to embellish. I know that was not the original strategy, but by the 3rd slide my anxiety level was down to a 1 and was comfortable enough to do anything. After the presentation, some of the questions were tougher than I thought, but I answered them well. As I left the room after the presentation, a partner handed me the following feedback: "Rich, Good presentation. Much improved over last year. You looked calm and confident." What happened today is a tribute to the hard work I put in as well as my dedication. However, it is also a tribute to the public speaking program you run, and the success it brings. Thank you for all of your help and for the strategy you developed to help me succeed today. Like I said in my email a few weeks ago, the stakes were high because of what happened last year and they were really focusing on this presentation. Failure was not an option! Best Regards,
Rich Brady - 6-16-03
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HI Charles, I'm so sorry I never made it back for additional sessions before I left town - it's been incredibly hectic (as if my job weren't already hectic enough). I can't tell you what a great help your workshops have been for me (what an understatement...), although you're probably very good at measuring each individual's progress. I truly never thought I'd EVER be able to stand up in front of a group and speak. And with little or no measurable anxiety at times...one of life's little miracles. I will be forever grateful. Thanks again, Charles - from the bottom of my heart.
Linda Lombardi - 6-02-03
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Dear Charles, Thank you so so much for all your help and encouragement. Your class really has been a life changing experience for me. I've gained a greater level of self-confidence, both socially and professionally. And I appreciate that you believed from Day 1 that I would be able to be successful in your program.
Laura - 6-01-03
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Charles, I recently accepted my Toastmasters club request that I be president. It is unbelievable to me that I even belong to a public speaking group and now it looks like I will be president. I have three speeches left to attain my CTM. I could never have done it without your help. Thanks!
Jeff Schwartz - 5-07-03
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Charles, I just wanted to say again how amazingly grateful I am to you for your wonderful classes. I cannot describe how much more confidence I have gained and how much better I feel about myself in general thanks to the classes and on top of all that I feel I have gone some way to fulfilling a lifetime ambition of mine. I can only hope that when I return to England I will find a class as supportive and friendly as yours - somehow I doubt it. Thank you again for all your support, guidance and advice. And please pass on my thanks to everyone in the class, I couldn't have kept returning each week if it weren't for their friendly faces and support.
Alison Hartley - 4-14-03
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Charles, My lecture last night was a success. People loved it and I had fun doing it. I was relaxed the whole time. The fear of public speaking as been transformed to the joy of public speaking.
Paula Rocha - 4-11-03
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I attended a week's worth of sessions with you last April. Since then, I have really come a long way. I still have a long way to go, but I have accomplished all of the short term goals I set for myself in your office. THANK YOU!!!!
Jackie Douglas - 4-10-03
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Charles, I want to thank you for helping me prepare for my meeting at work. It took place this morning and I couldn't believe how well I did! There was absolutely no anxiety except when I finally got into the conference room. But I broke the ice and it subsided. I couldn't believe it! Normally, I'd be a wreck the minute I'd wake up knowing I have to talk to a group of co-workers. Obviously, this boosted my confidence. I was amazed at myself, normally a meeting of this nature would have debilitated my whole physical and mental state. When the meeting was over I had this intense sense of confidence and energy and felt like I wanted to do another meeting right away! I know I have more work ahead of me but today was clearly a burning light of success. Thank you Charles and many thanks to the group members who are always so supportive.
Roberto - 3-25-03
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I just learned that I got an offer from a Canadian firm that was my top choice from the various ones I applied to (to start in September, perfect timing for me). I'm so very excited. I could not have done this without all of your hard work with me. Thank you so very much.
Andrea - 3-05-03
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I gave a toast this past weekend at my engagement party, in front of about 50 family and friends. I was anxious leading up to the event but after gaining structure and putting less emphasis on making the best possible toast, the anxiety rescinded and the it went quite well. Just getting up there and saying something sincere made all the difference. Thanks for all the help.
Brian - 2-10-03
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I have a speaking engagement Feb 1 to about 80 people, I teach a course beginning Feb 4, I accepted a seminar speaking engagement for March and another in April to as many as 200 people for one and a half hours.
Keith - 1-14-03
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I did my speech last night and I thought I might do horribly but I didn't. I was very nervous and I think that people could tell but I was okay with it.
Gina - 1-9-03
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I performed in the XMAS skit at work today though, and did well with it. I was a little nervous about appearing in front of 70 people, and not feeling great, but sort of powered my way through it. anxiety was probably at a 4 or 5 level. People said I did very well and they loved it - it was a comedy routine, poking fun at our managers.
Josh Horton - 12-19-02
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This weekend at my husband's cousin's Bat-Mitzvah, I had to get up with my husband and my brother in law and sing three prayers in front of the whole congregation. To my amazement, I hadn't given any thought to it until I got to the temple. Normally, I would have freaked out for a week. When I got up there, I was nervous and a bit shaky but so was everyone else who had to do it. Once I started the prayer, I relaxed and actually felt very confident up there. Thanks Charles. Six months ago, I don't think I would have been so relaxed.
Ellie - 12-2-02
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Hi Charles, the speech went extremely well. I felt extreme anxiety in the morning when I first woke up. The anxiety lessened as the day went on. By the time I gave the speech I was experiencing almost no anxiety. I actually improvised in three different sections of the speech. I was amazed by my lack of fear, and many people gave me compliments. Thank you for all your help and encouragement.
Sincerely, Bill Bodge - 11-11-02
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I would like to let you know how helpful and enjoyable I find your classes. I already find myself more comfortable speaking in a group and have even had a small but important opportunity to speak up at a meeting at work. I can't wait to come back to your class as soon as my schedule clears up. Thanks.
Angel Rodriguez - 10-27-02
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My presentation went very well. I practiced several times the night before then a couple of times during the day. When the time came I wasn't nervous at all. I kept it slow and at a good volume and was complimented by several of my colleagues. Thanks for your help and support!
Vic - 10-25-02
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I actually had to give a 1 1/2 hr case presentation to my lab group and supervisor and never thought I'd get through it! I did, and the first ten minutes were very hard, but it eased up, and when I had to do it again the next week, I was so much more confident. I am always thinking about how helpful your group is, particularly getting others' feedback after presenting, which really helped me change my perception of what I look like up there.
Elisabeth - 10-20-02
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Charles: We'll my BIG event is over (speaking to 150 people) -- and I never slept better than I did last night! It went very well, my partner said it was a 9 out of 10. Overall, I feel good about my first time out. I also did the final closing remarks, which was impromptu (in that I did not prepare for it) and my partner said this part was very warm and genuine. Several people congratulated me, including members of my board. Thanks for your help, and to those in the group who had to hear my speech over and over again!
Tracie - 10-04-02
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Thanks for the words of encouragement, Charles. I had a "go around the room and give us your name" type of meeting today. Only ten people and a high comfort level with most of them, but it was no problem whatsoever. It's so strange how you can psych yourself out about these things, against your own wishes.
Kate - 10-04-02
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The presentation to our board of directors went quite well. I was a bit anxious beforehand but once I started everything was fine. It is amazing to me when I think back on how I would have panicked about it even a few months ago. Your class has helped me immensely.
Rachel - 10-02-02
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Last week, Jack Welch, the former CEO of GE, came to speak at Dartmouth as part of a Leadership Series the business school hosts. Mr. Welch addressed the business school (first and second year classes totaling 480 students) in addition to the entire faculty and other distinguished guests. When he was finished, instead of opening up the floor to questions (he likely avoided doing so due to his recent publicity nightmare involving the compensation information released to the media in his wife's divorce papers) he decided to cold call someone in the audience to comment on a story he had just related in addition to discussing an ethical issue from their personal life. So, needless to say, he called on me! I had to stand up at my seat and speak in front of everyone totally impromptu. My voice was a drop shaky in the beginning (but I doubt anyone noticed) but I was able to relate clearly a story. Once I got going I was fine. Many of my classmates came up to me and said I did an amazing job and that the story I told was very relevant (plus they felt badly that I was put on the spot like that and were glad it wasn't them!).
Erica - 9-28-02
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Hi Charles, I have been meaning to write to you and tell you how wonderful your workshop was. I've really learned a great deal about myself. I've learned that I can get up in front of a room full with strangers and talk!!! The class was so supportive that I am sorry my sessions have ended. Please tell everyone I said hello. I am going to actually miss going to the workshops on Tuesdays which is not the feeling I had at the beginning. Thank you very very much.
Nikaulis- 9-27-02
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Charles~ My first day at toastmasters was a bit scary, but I survived! There were 3 other guests with me, but they seemed pretty experienced in public speaking. We had the table topics speeches today and I gave one that lasted 2 minutes. I was feeling pretty nervous up there, but I somehow managed. A lady told me I looked really comfortable~ hope she meant it! well, I decided to join the one I attended today. I'll keep you posted on my progress~ thank you Charles for your support!
Rebecca - 9-23-02
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Hi Charles-- I'm still working full time, but I'm taking one class at Columbia in the School of Social Work. I'm working toward my Clinical MSW so that I can eventually become a licensed psychotherapist. I'm very excited about this new course in my life, and I honestly believe I wouldn't have had the courage to make this move had I not attended your classes over the past year. I recommend your Public Speaking Workshop to people all the time.
Gretchen- 9-17-02
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I spoke in one of my weekly meetings last Wed. reading from my notes and I remembered to breathe and speak slowly. It went well and I wasn't that nervous. Thanks Charles!!!
Ellie - 9-13-02
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Charles, I was a nervous wreck the first time I stepped into your class; when you asked me to introduce myself, I could barely breathe because my anxiety level was off the charts. After two 12-week sessions, I developed enough confidence to move on to Toastmasters. I still have some anticipatory anxiety preparing for the speeches and I still get nervous right before I start but once I get going, I'm fine. At work, things have never been better. I'm taking on a much more public role in my company. I'm going out on lunches and meeting with buyers--something I used to dread--and I actually look forward to these events. Best of all, I convinced my wife to join Toastmasters and we have discovered public speaking as something we can do together. For anyone reading my testimonial, don't think about taking Charles class, do it!
Scott Messina - 6-10-02
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Charles, I did it. My icebreaker at Toastmasters went really well. My anticipatory anxiety was not too bad and once I began my speech, it was very manageable. I got very good feedback from others. I couldn't have done it without all of your help! You can certainly share this with others, although it understates what an incredible feeling of accomplishment I have.
Jeff Schwartz - 6-04-02
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Charles, I just got back from Church and I have to tell you that the readings this morning could not have gone better. There were about 30 or so people there. My voice did not shake at all and once I relaxed, I started to read with more feeling and even had fun with it. I Thank you again for the help you have given me. I wasn't sure before about signing up for future readings but I now feel confident that I can, and will, do them.
John - 5-14-02
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Gave my next presentation/book signing tonight. There were 16 or 18 people, only three of whom I new and all went well. Very little anticipatory anxiety and very little anxiety while up there (from 1 to 2). I kept my formal speech short, had some props in the form of pictures I passed around and turned it into a q and a session after about five minutes. It was enjoyable for me and everyone else seemed to enjoy it also. (My wife just asked me who I was writing too. I told her and she said, 'you know, he's doing a great job.') My sentiments exactly.
Keith - 5-12-02
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I had a bit of success on Tuesday night. I gave my "ice breaker" speech at Toastmasters and won the award for best speech. It felt great, especially since one of the other speakers was a "distinguished Toastmaster" who has given 100s of speeches.
Ben - 5-10-02
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II went to my second Toastmasters meeting last week and won the award for best table topics discussion. I'm giving my "ice breaker" in two weeks, and I would like to practice it on Friday, if I can manage to draft something between now and then. Also, I'm arguing an appeal before the New York appellate court this week. So, in all, lots of public speaking and noticeable improvement. Hope you are doing well, and I'll see you soon.
Ben - 4-26-02
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Hi Charles-- Wanted to let you know that I did my presentation today and it went really, really well...the anxiety greatly dissipated when I stood up to talk, and I successfully made it through and actually felt like I could've kept on talking. Thank you so much for your help over the last few days...I kept a cheat sheet of your rules to reference while I was presenting (Loud, Breathe, don't try to be good, and I also drew a little stick figure of you demonstrating to me how I needed to just present the info), it helped so much as did the extra practice you gave me Saturday and last night. Thank you again!!!
Gretchen - 4-16-02
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Hi Charles! I just wanted to let you know that my presentation went quite well last night. I was really nervous, but my anxiety went down significantly once I got going. And the suggestions you gave me were very helpful. My argument generated a good discussion afterwards and I even got a few compliments! I'm relieved that it's over, and I'm glad that I finally broke my silence in the class. Thanks, as always, for your help and encouragement. I really appreciate it.
Joey - 4-11-02
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Had the Barnes and Noble presentation last night. I forgot a few lines from some early portions of my speech but it didn't matter much. I had it written out but never referred to it. I chose not to use the mic. for most of the speech. I had little anticipatory anxiety and once really under way, no anxiety during the presentation. In the Q and A portion I was really enjoying it and wanted it to go on. I have survived my greatest fear with little difficulty. My sincerest thanks to all the really supportive students over the last several weeks, and to you Charles.
Keith - 4-01-02
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Had my class last night. It went without a hitch. I was quite in command and divided my time between teaching the class as a whole at the front of the room and working with my 13 students individually. I had no anxiety, projected well, was strong and confident. They liked the class and got a lot out of it. I really wasn't anxious about it before though there was a fast energy running through my body, but I expected somewhat more difficulty than I had. I taught a class years ago and was terribly anxious and barely survived it, with much practice. I practiced this class last night, for about ten minutes once a week ago.
Keith - 3-19-02
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I want to thank you for somehow getting me to stand in front of a group of people and talk, all within just a few weeks. Thanks to the workshop I'm looking forward to this year! Thanks again,
Bryan - 3-11-02
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Hi- I just wanted to let you know that I had a more formal presentation that I had to give today and I lived through it. I also received some great feedback from my peers so I think it went quite well. I wouldn't have been able to get this far with out your class.
Jean - 3-18-02
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This week is the first time in about three years that I did a presentation to the Operating Committee on video link without any Xanax, and with manageable levels. It went very well actually. What a relief that is! Next week I plan on doing the Board of Directors cold turkey as well. It is because of you. How can I thank you enough. Anyway, I am like a new man. My wife says I am finally just myself. At the age of 52!
Tom - CIO 3-1-02
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I had my last short film project workshop in screen writing class and volunteered to come up in front of the class of 35 to tell (not read) the story - I felt great, very little - if any - anxiety once I started, and the training helped me tell it an animated way. I feel that your classes have helped me a great deal and continue to do so.
Alan 2-20-02
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Dear Charles, I just returned from California. As you may remember I was traveling there for my engagement party and had been practicing a short "thank you" speech in class for my 165 guests. To say the least, I did an excellent job without memorizing! My close friends who are aware of my public speaking/anxiety problem were in complete disbelief that I suffered with this at all. Words cannot express my thanks for your help and coaching. This is a huge personal triumph for me.
Helen 2-18-02
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Charles, I have to tell you this: I had to make two presentations at PACE University. One was technical and the other was a survey finding one. Both of them went very well. It felt great. Thank you very much.
Arvind 12-29-01
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I participated in some short improvised scenes in my new acting class and was only a little bit anxious on stage in front of 35 people. I used to be scared just to raise my hand in class. I guess your group has really prepared me for this.
Kirk 12-20-01
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I completed my forth speech at Toastmasters last night and won the best speaker award. But the really good news is that I had no anticipatory anxiety, either in the days before the event, or the final moments of driving there and walking up the stairs to the meeting. I can truly say I enjoyed making the speech. Thank you again for my remarkable progress.
Irwin 11-09-01
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I recently finished a children's book writing class at Gotham Writers Workshop. Your teachings helped tremendously with the performance anxiety (reading my stuff to everyone). One of the things that has helped me a lot is the realization the anxiety doesn't necessarily have to go away, and in fact it may never completely go away, but I can still function. Thank you, thank you Charles, for your compassion and skill in teaching. I remember feeling like such a freak the first time I walked into your class, and now I see myself as a somewhat! normal human being, whether I'm anxious or not. ...I also remember how you made me laugh that first day, in a situation I never imagined laughing in.
Ann - 8-27-01
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Thanks to the group's support and constructive criticism during a mock-interview exercise in class, I felt motivated to make an extra effort at a recent job interview. I had been looking for several months with no success, and I was beginning to think that no one would ever want to hire me because of my shy manner. To my surprise, the effort paid off; I got the job! I feel a great sense of accomplishment (and relief!), further proof that if you persevere, you will see results.
Joey - 7-17-01
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FYI - I did two taped radio interviews last week. I was kind of worked up about them, but I used some of the techniques we discussed in the group, plus thinking of the interviews as personal one-on-one conversations and I was fine. I think I wasn't as nervous because I knew the interviews were taped. Either way - I think I am developing a comfort level for this situation and will be able to do live interviews in the near future.
Jeremy - 7-11-01
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I can still remember the dread and anticipation I had coming to your group for the first time and just facing a few sympathetic people. But my commitment and hard work has paid off. I recently did something I never would have thought possible in this lifetime. I won 4 straight Best Speaker awards at Toastmasters International and one more at Dale Carnegie. I still cannot believe it. I have had a severe problem with this all my life and now things are actually starting to turn around. Your program really works!
Paul Itoney - 6/11/01
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Having taken many courses, yours is the only one with the fundamental and practical steps necessary to overcome these fears. There are no secret acting tips or breathing techniques that will magically rid this problem. It takes small, incremental steps until a comfort zone is reached.
Steve - Atlanta - 6-22-01 - - Senior Manager for Large Telecommunications Co.
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I don't know if I told you, but I did get the part in the dance company piece that I auditioned for. My taping for Channel 9 will be on 4/20, and I have decided to perform. I have some of my downtown dance friends coming in and we are going to improv together. There is also going to be another newspaper piece on me being done this coming Tuesday. AND...I got a call from the NYC parks department that wants me to run a dance in the park series in Washington Square Park! I want to take this time to thank you, because without your support and the support of the group I do not think I would have been able to go forth with any of this.
Alexis Marnel - 4/15/01
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I'm a writer whose career was almost derailed because of my public speaking phobia. I had avoided public speaking for 20 years. But after creating a well-received book, I began to receive requests to do readings, presentations, radio, and television interviews. I was horrified. I would have rather jumped out of a tenth floor window onto a bed of nails than face an audience. The anxiety kept me up at nights. I heard about Charles's workshops and began to attend. Over a period of several months, I learned to become more comfortable in front of a group of people. I've given about a half-dozen live radio interviews, and even appeared on television. I was a keynote speaker at a university conference where I spoke to about 60-75 college students. I was a panelist at the American Library Association national conference last year and spoke to large room full of hundreds of librarians. It's still scary and I still have a lot of work to do. But now I know I can get through it. I've even enjoyed it. I'd encourage anyone whose fear of public speaking is holding him or her back to try this program.
Pearl
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Charles, Your meetings helped me so much. I did fine at that ceremony I was so nervous about. I also completed a couple of classes I signed up for that I had put off for years. I was very outgoing in my classes, something that would have paralyzed me in the past. At times I even enjoyed being the class clown.
Diane 11/26/00
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I will never forget my experience in NY, and I will always have fond memories of it. It gave me the courage to go through my classes -- classes that I kept postponing which delayed my graduation date. You have helped me more ways than you can imagine. If it wasn't for you , I would never have put up the website requesting to form a support group in Arizona. This not only led me to an interest in web design (I have a part time job at the university), but it has led me to help many others reaching out for help. In addition, I have been offered a summer internship. Never in a million years did I think I would have enough guts to interview with a prestigious company. Thank-you for everything Charles!
Elizabeth 4/13/01
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Your support group has been extremely helpful and I have made remarkable progress. Anticipatory anxiety was overwhelming and used to take a real toll. I am delighted to report that it is virtually eliminated and I now routinely participate in events that I used to dread. Many thanks.
Update: Made it through my ice breaker at Toastmasters, remarkably free of anticipatory anxiety leading up to the event. There was one intense moment when I pulled into the parking lot that almost made me turn around and go home. But I got through that and felt more relaxed when I went upstairs and began talking to people. My delivery was about the same as it was in your class. A little tense at first and then relaxed. I want to thank you again for the remarkable progress. Please extend my thanks to the class. Progress is impossible without the group participation.
PS. I won the Best Speaker ribbon for the evening. It is a victory I share with you and the class.
Irwin
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I was recently transferred to New York in a new job capacity which involved public speaking to law enforcement groups of 70 and more. I immediately searched the web and found Charles di Cagno's site. From the first session, I knew this was what I had needed. All my life I have suffered with severe anxiety and "stage fright" from public speaking. After several sessions in the warm , non-pressuring atmosphere, I knew I had found the answer to a problem for which I thought there was no solution. I forever thank Charles for equipping me with the building blocks I needed to be a successful public speaker. If I can do it - anyone can!
Marianna
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Coming to the class has been the best 'treatment' I have encountered to help my fear of public speaking. My confidence to speak in front of people has grown tremendously from my first evening, when I thought I would have problems just being in the class, let alone speaking with all the attention focused on me. Aside from the confidence I have gained in speaking out loud, I have also become more confident in other ways, such as speaking to people one on one. And incidentally driving in front of others. This is because my self-esteem is gradually increasing through the support and encouragement of the group.
Jane Johnson
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I have just attended my 15th session and have almost forgotten how bad my speaking phobia was just prior to attending this group. I have gone from being irritable and losing sleep days before any type of potential public speaking situation to having minimal anxiety. I continue to travel almost one hour (one-way) to attend because it has been that helpful. I have sought many ways and was willing to make great sacrifices to address this problem. This has been by far the most helpful remedy to my phobia. My confidence in public speaking as well as my confidence in other aspects in my life has improved immensely.
Gary
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This group is beneficial because now I know that there are others with this problem. To know others have been where I am, and have succeeded is empowering. The group teaches, in manageable steps, to overcome something I thought I would have to live with the rest of my life. I would highly recommend this group for anyone who has social and/or performance phobia because the results are there.
Nancy C./ Yonkers
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I believe my confidence has improved almost 100% after attending 10 weeks in the beginners public speaking group, led by Charles di Cagno. I look forward now to facing new challenges, I normally would have put off for another day, month or year.
KenFried@bestweb.net/ Mohegan Lake, N.Y.Gary
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For years I ignored my social phobia and hoped it would just go away. It didn't. I am thankful that I took that first step and called the Center. Week by week I have watched my ability to speak in public improve. Now I just wish that I had called sooner.
Steve
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The task ahead seemed insurmountable. I am a 23 year old graduate student who was to teach English 220 to a group of 30 undergraduate students. This would require intelligence, poise, the ability to speak in public, and a brand-new wardrobe. I was horrified. I enrolled in the workshop, hoping to cure my paralyzing fear of public speaking. As the time drew closer, I enjoyed daily panic attacks and hard-core insomnia. I practiced in four different groups, and though, when I went in for my first class, I was trembling with trepidation, the experience that I had gained from groups sustained me and I survived. I write this now in my brand-new office, a few hours after my third class.
The workshop may not make public speaking easy, but it makes it possible.
Marina Robinovich
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I'd like to thank you for all that you have done for me up this point in our class. I never thought I would be able to speak in front of a group again, and with your compassionate guidance, I am gaining confidence in my ability to do just that. It was a wonderful practice for me last night on so many levels. In particular, waiting until the end to take my turn. It's amazing how the things we think are so challenging, are just what the doctor ordered.
Maureen Munroe
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It started like an airplane...shaky at first rumbling down the runway (for about a minute) as I worked to gain composure. During the first minute, I wasn't sure if I would crash or fly until I got just a little air under my tires and lifted of the ground just ever so slightly. Once I realized I was within grasp of control (a few more minutes of talking), the anxiety began to fade as I realized I knew the material well due to practicing. As the anxiety began to lift, I actually took off, soared and enjoyed myself. It was the presentation I always wanted to give!! Thank you Charles!!!!!
Greg Roberts
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Hi Charles - My best man speech on Sunday went over really well. I'll fill you in on all the details at the next session. Thanks for all your help!
Frank Gregory
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By the way, I gave my presentation at work Friday and it went great. I spoke to a room full of about 25 people and wasn't nervous at all! I couldn't have even imagined doing that a year ago. My boss told me twice that I did a great job. You have worked a miracle -- thanks so much.
D. A.